Memorial day, the day politicians find time in their schedule for a photo op in Arlington, civilians raise American flags and BBQ, and veterans cringe when thanked for their service; I can do without it.

I know it’s a very controversial thing to say, but I’m done with all of the pandering to the military. I’m sick of politicians pretending to give a shit during election years then having my brothers die waiting for care in the VA. I’m sick of being thanked for my service, then watching my brothers unable to get a job because civilians think we’re unstable. On memorial day weekend in particular, I shun the thought of someone who doesn’t care on 364 days a year, asking me if I lost anyone with a pitiful look on their face.

If Memorial Day is for veterans, I don’t need it. I remember every day. Every single day, something, sometimes as simple as my kids giving me a hug, will remind me of other beautiful children who won’t get to hug their daddy today; so I hold mine a second longer.

I’ve reached my fill of seeing veterans used as a tool for personal gain and profit, and seeing what has happened with the Wounded Warrior Project, it appears not even within the community are we immune to it.

Think I’m just disgruntled and full of crap? Watch as Facebook sends out some new filter for people to change their profile pics to. Then go to any company or politician’s website Monday. I guarantee it’ll be filled with American flags and something like “xxx salutes our veterans” on the top. Now ask that person or company what a Gold Star Family is, or what Section 60 is, or better yet, ask them to tell you about someone in Section 60, then talk to me about how much they actually care.

The sacrifice my brothers made and their family continues to make is not an opportunity for you to get elected or have a sale. Arlington is not a place for a “photo op”.

Some of You do Care

As Chad told me when I was preparing this post, “A nation that recognizes it’s fallen soldiers one day a year is better than a nation that doesn’t recognize them at all.”

I know some of you are genuine. Many of you don’t know how to show your support beyond a “thank you for your service” or the latest Facebook profile filter; you’re doing your best. So here are some tips: Go find a veteran run charity that does some good, or help a gold star family. Don’t let politicians get away with pandering their “veteran support” to win your vote. Finally, don’t buy into the stereotype that all veterans have PTSD and are broken, we’re not. Oh, and anytime you see someone in hollywood turn up the collar on their uniform like this, just stop watching that show: